The 4 of Wands is a card of warmth and stability. Some have labeled it the luckiest card in the pack. If you are desiring a time free of challenges or a place aside from stresses, then I guess this is it.
Think of the number ‘4’; it is secure and stable. Fire is naturally reckless, but here, it is tamed by the number. You could liken it to a log-fire in a cabin – contained and cosy; warm, but not too hot that it is overbearing.
The four wands in the traditional card remind me of a Chuppah. A Chuppah is a square covering, held up by four staves and used in Jewish wedding ceremonies. It can be associated with where we live, so it is not really a surprise that the 4 of Wands is often referred to as the ‘marriage card’ and is connected to a persons hearth and home.
When this card comes up in a reading, it usually suggests a period of satisfaction. For some it might come across as mundane, but for anyone who has had their fair share of the extra-ordinary or life’s unexpected ups and downs, it is a welcome sign in a spread.
When the 4 of Wands sits with The Lovers, the meaning is pretty self-explanatory. Here is a scenario which really does suggest marriage after a deep courtship. This is [of course] if the couple wish to tie the knot. The Lovers is traditionally about choice. What suits one couple might not suit another. Does your partner wish to slip a ring on your finger or is your relationship strong enough (as hinted at by this duo) that you actually do not need to be joined in matrimony?
This combination depicts a couple who are settling down after a strong romance. They choose a stable path together, accepting that the highs of romance and new-love eventually transform into something more mature. When in love, it is a sacrifice people naturally make and this duo is symbolic of that.
To begin with, we see the guy with the ripped-out heart. Nope, it is not a pleasant card to be greeted with. He is in pain and it is likely that the wound has been inflicted by another person. The 3 of Swords is often linked to betrayal and heartbreak.
When the 4 of Wands follows the 3 of Swords, we can see that things have the potential to get better. And here is the funny thing! It is likely that the heartbreak of the 3 of Swords was actually necessary for the person to grow and move on to happier situations.
I can speak from experience when I say that blessings can be found within difficult situations, even if it was hard to view them as such during a time of distress. Maybe noisy neighbours have forced you out of the home you were settled in, but you have found a new place of residence which you love twice as much? Or possibly, being dumped by a partner was a terrible shock, but now that you’ve met a woman to whom you are far more suited, you realised that your previous relationship had been dead-in-the-water for some time.
© Steven Bright Tiferet Tarot 2014